Everybody wants the movie and tv-sit com kind of love. The kind where emotional investment is guaranteed of a return even higher than the investment itself. The kind that doesn’t require any gamble.
We willingly wait for the sure-thing kind of love. The love that transcends chemistry and biology. The kind where two people choose to go all in for, hopefully, at the same time.
But in reality, what we really want is for other people to charm us and sweep us off our feet, to make sacrifices for us, to rush to the airport and stop us from leaving. Pretty much what we see in the movies.
Yet, we are hesitant to do these things for anyone else even if we are well aware that for this kind of love – someone has to be willing to go all in first, we still choose to protect our egos rather than show how we truly feel. We wouldn’t want to communicate first because we want to seem chill, forgetting how it is to love freely.
But this kind of love we all are aching for isn’t the kind that plays by the rules. Who should text first, when should goodnights be said, and the list goes on.
And if you really want that bold, all-consuming kind of love, you have to be willing to go after it and fight for it. You have to be willing to put yourself out there knowing that it has the potential to break and drown you down.
And if you are not, in any way, willing to give out that kind of love you’ve been craving for, you’ve been hoping for and you’ve been praying for, then maybe, just maybe, you don’t deserve to have it at all.